Frequently Asked Questions

All members can send Flirts for free. If you'd like to take it a step further, we suggest upgrading to a Premium Membership and sending an email to start up a real conversation.

• Click the "Profile" link in the top menu
• Click "Edit" next to your Username
• Click either Change Email or Change Password

If you don't want other members to know when you've looked at their profile or Listed them, go to Show/Hide Profile in Member Services and select "hide" in the section called "Show/Hide When I View Or List Members."

Keep in mind that members who are most active on the site keep their profile visible in all places because it ups their chances of connecting with people. You never know, someone special may be looking for you but never find you if your profile is hidden.

Lists have been a real hit on our sites and have helped bring some unsuspecting couples together! People keep telling us that they contact people simply because they saw in the Lists that a member looked at their profile. So before you hit "hide," give it a chance to work.

So many times we hear that one member contacted someone simply because they saw that that person had looked at their profile or Listed them. Members also say that their Lists lead them to meet members that they might not have seen in a search otherwise.

Think about it. If you saw that someone had Listed you and you liked what you saw, wouldn't you be more likely to send an email?

The other half of your Lists tell you about other members looking at your profile or emailing or teasing you. Every time someone looks at your profile or contacts you, it shows up in your Lists and the numbers go up accordingly. Keep in mind, however, that some members choose to hide their profile from showing up in your Lists.

Also, in order to keep your Lists up-to-date, we periodically clean out the members that have been in your "viewed" List for a while. This also changes the counter.

To read the note, simply login to the site and go to your Inbox. If you decide to write back, simply click "reply" in the member's note, write your own note and send away. Your note will go straight into the member's onsite Inbox, and we'll let them know it's there with an email to their personal email address.

All communications with other members stay onsite so that you never have to give out any personal information until you feel completely ready. Then when you are, you can exchange phone numbers and even meet in person.

Try to put your best foot forward with at least one photo and snappy, detailed essays. The photo is key since most people feel more comfortable writing to members they can see. Try to stay positive in your essays and let the real you shine.

To hide your profile, go to Profile Display Settings in Member Services. Keep in mind, however, that members who are most active on the site keep their profile visible in all places because it ups their chances of connecting with people. And you never know, someone special may be looking for you and never get to find you if your profile is hidden.